Please read this before you rely on anything in these books.
The books, the templates and this site describe a relationship pattern, summarize what research on attachment does and does not show, and offer a method for making a decision. That is general education. It is not therapy, counseling, coaching, crisis support, or medical, legal or financial advice, and nothing here is advice about your particular relationship. The author is not a licensed therapist and does not know you or your partner.
The books cannot tell you what another person feels or predict what anyone will do. Anyone who claims otherwise is guessing.
If you are not safe. If there is violence, threats, control of your money or movement, or you are afraid of what happens when you speak honestly, the method in these books does not apply and could make things worse. In the United States, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 (text START to 88788); in an emergency call 911. Elsewhere, contact your local emergency number or domestic violence service.
If you are struggling. If the distance in your relationship has you not sleeping, not eating, drinking more, or thinking about hurting yourself, please talk to someone qualified. In the United States, call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. A licensed therapist can do things a book cannot.
Using these books means you accept that the decisions you make are yours.